Life is and will always come with some obstacles. Probably the biggest obstacle we as human beings face is self acceptance. I do not mean accepting just what is on the surface, for example: where we are in our careers versus where we expect to be at this time in our lives. I mean self acceptance as accepting who we are as individuals; our flaws, our imperfections, and our pasts. Along with that comes accepting that the people around us are who they are and that attempting to change that would do them as much of a disservice as it would for us.
Somewhere along the path of life we entered survival mode. Living for survival makes us put up walls that we hope will keep unwanted visitors out. Unfortunately, these walls often keep out those who we wish to get close to as well as giving us an excuse to ignore what lies behind our emotional walls. The decision to let our walls down and embrace our truth helps us form deeper connections because to love ourselves is to understand what it means to love another. I wont look to my significant others for gratification because I will already know it for myself and will be more secure in it. The more secure I am in my truths the more available I will be to be supported and support those around me to embrace our truths.
Empower yourself to take back control of your life. Turn your survival mode to discovery mode and get to know and accept yourself. The walls you built are limiting your ability to be and operate in your truths. Each of us have our own truths and it is a privilege of humankind to be different yet accepting. Self knowledge helps us to become mindful of our actions and the intentions behind them. Knowing what makes us vulnerable is actually the key to our strength. Learn to love yourself for all that you are. A beautiful human being that deserves to shine in their own light.
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most importantly, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” – Steve Jobs